Garota dá aula de amor próprio com ‘antes e depois’ no Instagram

Enquanto checava o feed nas redes sociais, com certeza você já se deparou com fotos de “antes e depois” relacionadas ao corpo. Algumas para mostrar uma nova dieta, outras para contar a rotina de exercícios que tem mudado vidas e ainda, quem sabe, até para promover um  ~produto milagroso~ que promete acabar com as gordurinhas. Mas uma americana chamada Milly Smith, de 23 anos, tem feito sucesso no Instagram ao mostrar que nem todos os “antes e depois” são reais, na intenção de incentivar as pessoas a amarem mais o próprio corpo ao invés de buscarem um ideal muitas vezes mentiroso e inalcançável.

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Same girl, same day, same time. 💛 Not a before and after. Not a weight loss transformation. Not a diet company promotion. 💛 I am comfortable with my body in both. Neither is more or less worthy. Neither makes me more or less of a human being. Neither invites degrading comments and neither invites sleezy words. 💛 We are so blinded to what a real unposed body looks like and blinded to what beauty is that people would find me less attractive within a 5 second pose switch! How insanely ridiculous is that!? 💛 I love taking these, it helps my mind so much with body dysmorphia and helps me rationalise my negative thoughts. 💛 Don't compare, just live for you. There is no one on this planet who's like you and that's pretty damn amazing don't ya think. The world doesn't need another copy, it needs you. 💛 We are worthy, valid and powerful beyond measure 💙🌟 (If you don't pull your tights up as high as possible are you really human?)

A post shared by Milly Bhaskara 🌻 (she/her) (@millykeepsgoing) on Jan 29, 2017 at 10:45am PST

Na legenda da foto acima, ela destaca: “Estamos tão cegos em relação a como é de fato um corpo não posado e ao que é a beleza, que as pessoas me achariam menos atraente por causa de uma mudança de pose que levou cinco segundos. Quão insanamente ridículo é isso?”. Esse questionamento é feito porque a única diferença entre a foto da direita e da esquerda é que ela subiu a meia calça até a cintura. “Estou confortável com o meu corpo nas duas fotos”, garante.

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So many of you thank me for doing the comparison photos, it breaks wall down and releases some of the pressure to look posed/photoshopped constantly. Different angles give us different shapes,different lighting sinks into our dimples or skims over them, different poses lengthen our stomach. It's life. We have this image of seeing Instagram models walking around looking exactly like they do in the posed photo, abs forever tensed, forever smiling, forever posed and not jiggling and we want that too. We see the comments and praise they get and crave that kind of validity. Making some silly connection between compliments and likes to our worth.. there is NO correlation. Our self worth is not defined by our weight or the shape of our body. We don't need to hold photos with high regards, we need to hold our selves with high regards. Your body will change, life changes and I'd rather roll with it than live a constant battle trying to stop it. Your body will fight to fit its own happy state, not the perceived happy state set onto us, put down the guns as it's a battle you won't win. I don't know one elderly person who's wished they'd spent more time on a diet, who'd wished they'd hated themselves more or who wished they'd spent more time not enjoying the things we deprive ourselves of to fit into an ideal (that ironically is forever changing too). Life isn't one square of pixels, it's a constant see of change with waves of bad and waves of good. A smooth sea never made a skilled sailor 🌎 You're worthy, valid and beautiful just the way you are.

A post shared by Milly Bhaskara 🌻 (she/her) (@millykeepsgoing) on Dec 14, 2016 at 10:27am PST

Essa não é a única foto de body positivity de Milly Smith. Na verdade, o Instagram todo dela é recheado de imagens inspiradoras em que exibe o corpo com orgulho e como forma de empoderamento, por compartilhar mensagens sobre depressão, ansiedade, automutilação, distúrbios alimentares e problemas de autoestima. Ou seja, enquanto ela poderia usar a rede social para passar uma imagem de vida perfeita, ela é apenas real – e é aí que mora a verdadeira beleza da coisa.

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Nesta outra imagem, ela mostra como muita gente manipula as imagens em aplicativos. “Um minuto para fazer a edição em um aplicativo grátis e minha cintura está mais fina, os músculos mais definidos, os braços e as coxas menores e a bunda maior“, explica ela provando como é fácil mudar completamente o corpo com apenas alguns cliques.

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THIS PHOTO HAS BEEN EDITED ON PURPOSE! 1 minute to do on a free app, my waist is smaller, muscles more defined, arms and thighs smaller and butt bigger. Again highlighting how easy is is to manipulate and change the body at your finger tips in seconds. I've had so many of you message me today especially saying how you can't stop comparing yourself to 'fitness' pages. I hate them; I'm not saying all of them are the same but we all know the ones im talking about- the ones making aesthetics out to be your life's goal using the same body type over and over. 'NO EXCUSES YOU LAZY TWAT'… you know the drill. First off, the women on those pages represent a TINY minority of women, beautiful just like the rest of us and their beauty does not take away from yours- there's such a lack of variation with body types portrayed in fitness . Many of them have starved, restricted and over exercised to get the physique they have in the photo and if photoshopped hasn't been used often strategic lighting/posing has. Secondly. STOP (hammer time) unfollow the pages if they are a negative source for you. Don't look at them and instantly feel the pressure drop. Any page that tells you to look a certain way or hat exercise is purely weight lifting for aesthetics can't be healthy for your mind. I used them as a form of self destruction to punish myself; I can only assume a lot of those pages thrive from insecure men and women. However fake or real the image take a step back and realise you don't need to look or act like anybody else. You don't need muscle tone, restriction or unrealistically hard abs to feel worth. Don't waste your life chasing an image. Don't wake up one day at 70 and think "I never did look like those women and I wish I'd of made memories and smiles with the time I spent comparing" We are worthy, we are valid and we are powerful beyond measure 💪🏻❤ Ps it's so super hard and triggering for me to post these. It takes a lot of courage and you guys give me that courage ❤️

A post shared by Milly Bhaskara 🌻 (she/her) (@millykeepsgoing) on Jan 6, 2017 at 11:54am PST

Milly também fala bastante sobre as famosas imagens de academia, que têm rodado muito pelos feeds ultimamente. Ela manda a real quando diz que certamente muita gente já olhou para essas fotos e pensou em como queria ter pelo menos um pouco daquele corpo incrível, quando na verdade estava apenas invejando uma foto posada. “Não estou dizendo que fotos na academia ou de qualquer outra forma são ruins! Se você quer tirar uma foto assim, só vai! Apenas saiba que todos os ângulos do seu corpo são bonitos. Todos os ângulos podem ser celebrados“, ela incentiva.

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Gym selfies. Let's talk about them. I'm sure you're all aware of the epically fake gym selfies going around and the white, slim, tall, photoshopped, filtered etc women who are a part of them and I'm pretty sure many of you have scrolled through with envy and wished you could look the same when in reality 90% of those people don't look like that anyway and you are seeing them from one angle, one highly posed and tensed angle. Now I'm not saying gym selfies or selfies of any kind are bad! If you want to take a selfie in the gym then go for it sistaaaa, just know that every angle of your body is beautiful. Every angle can be celebrated. I used to gym a lot but recently I haven't been able to, my mental health, endo and the fact that I have a child have prevented me from doing so. I enjoy the gym and it gives me a mood boost so I do want to try and go more for self love practise. I don't really talk about my gym time much as I don't want to be a negative source of comparison for anyone struggling with over exercising. A GYM SELFIE ISN'T AN INDICATION OF HEALTH OR SELF WORTH. Recovering from an eating disorder and over exercising at a young age meant I had to learn to exercise for me, not just for aesthetics or as punishment. I had to learn that its okay to take 2 years off whilst I birthed my son, it was okay to take a year off to relax when my body was recovering, healing from intense care, fears of losing my life and weeks in hospital at the peak of anorexia. I had to learn that I love my body and therefore I want to get it moving from time to time to keep healthy for myself and my son, this can be a little walk to the shop or an hour bouncing about it the gym to music, whatever makes me happy at the time. If going to the gym drains you and you hate it or if leaves feeling guilty if you don't go then stop. Just stop going. There are tons of other exercises you can do, you don't need to force yourself to do the 'in thing'. Do what makes you happy, always ⭐️💚 Ps. All I did in these gym clothes was eat brownies and dairy free ice cream. Big thanks to @caam95_ for the love today to keep me going/motivated.

A post shared by Milly Bhaskara 🌻 (she/her) (@millykeepsgoing) on Dec 8, 2016 at 7:53am PST

E na verdade é bem essa a questão, né?! Não há nada de errado em tirar a foto do jeito que você quiser e postar nas redes sociais. O importante é saber que se comparar com os outros não é saudável. Ficar triste por não ter o corpo daquela ~influencer~ que você ama não é bom para você mesma. Se punir por não gostar do próprio corpo é negativo em vários níveis. Então, a gente só tem sempre que se lembrar, principalmente ao dar scroll no feed do Insta, que todos os corpos são bonitos e merecem ser amados – em primeiro lugar, por você mesma! 

Milly realmente dá uma linda lição ao frisar que não dá nada de errado em tirar fotos que te valorizem, fazer exercícios ou ter alimentação saudável, mas sempre lembrando que o ideal é que isso seja por prazer, não para tentar ser alguém que não é.

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